Origins of “Boy, Bye”
Ever since I first listened to Beyonce’s killer hit “Sorry”, I have become obsessed with one of the phrases she uses in the song- “Boy, Bye”. In fact, I’ve even adopted it as my summer 2017 motto. “Boy, Bye” is an updated version of the infamous line, “Bye Felicia”, which was obtained from the 1995 movie “Friday” and reemerged as an internet sensation and popular meme in 2014. According to a source who uploaded on Urban Dictionary, the phrase is often used online as “a dismissive farewell.”
Now, not much is written up about the clear meaning of “Bye, Bye”. In her hit song “Sorry“, Beyonce quotes the lyric:
Middle fingers up, put them hands high
Wave it in his face, tell him, boy, bye
Tell him, boy, bye, boy, bye, middle fingers up
I ain’t thinking ’bout you
So I am going to interpret the line in a similar fashion to “a dismissive farewell”. Saying so-long to something or someone that no longer betters you as a person and costs your peace. I wanted to give some real-life examples of situations where using “Boy, Bye” is completely appropriate.
Legit Telling a Boy, BYE
The current bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay, is not only beautiful, smart, and talented. But she is also very wise when it comes to putting her foot down and not getting played. I’m referring to Episodes 2&3 where we discover that fuckboy contestant, DeMario Jackson had a girlfriend prior to the filming of the show and Rachel refuses to let him back into the mansion after he lied. For more information on that whole fiasco, Betches does a pretty fantastic job of summarizing it all.
The motto for tonight is: Boy Bye #TheBachelorette
— Rachel Lindsay (@TheRachLindsay) June 6, 2017
Proud of you, Rachel. Hopefully we can all learn something from Rachel’s no nonsense policy and say “Boy, Bye” to someone or something that is undeserving of anymore of your time or energy… And it turns out Rachel’s intuition about him was correct. DeMario recently made headlines for allegedly being one of the causing factors leading to the cancellation of the upcoming season of Bachelor In Paradise. Shame on you, DeMario! #BOYBYE
Quitting A Job That You Hate
As adults, having a job is pretty common and necessary, unless you are Paris Hilton. Obviously, having a job has its many perks: a paycheck $, a sense of identity, meeting new people, learning new skills, and the structure of work-life balance. However, if you are working at a job where the cons begin to outweigh the perks, it might be time to consider leaving, or in other words, saying “Boy Bye”. From experience, I know the difference between being burned out at work vs. being in a toxic work environment. If you believe you’re in a toxic work environment, I suggest finding an escape plan ASAP.
Now, most of the time, it is best to have a backup plan before quitting a job you hate, like another job offer or planning to attend grad school in the near future. I recently quit a job where I had been unhappy for over 6 months. This job literally turned me, a sweet optimistic person into a spiteful pessimist over a span of 18 months. One let-down after another let-down, I was left feeling super under-appreciated, which really took a huge toll on my self-esteem and self-worth. I could no longer see the good in any situation.
Anything that costs your peace is too expensive.
As soon as I quit, I felt such a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I began to see clearly again and have started to adopt a more positive outlook on life. Although I do miss some of my former co-workers, I do not regret saying “Boy, Bye” to my old job.
Thank you, Queen Bee for giving me a motto that I can use for any situation that doesn’t better me in any way.
“Don’t settle: Don’t finish crappy books. If you don’t like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you’re not on the right path, get off it.” -Chris Brogan
Whether it’s a cheating, lying f***boy, a shitty job, a one-sided friendship, a bad texter, etc….you have the ability to say BOY BYE.